A Whole Family Affair
Two teens were in trouble with the school and the juvenile system for fighting on the school bus. Mediation was suggested when it was discovered that the issue was far more complicated than the single incident. The families of these teens had been in the court numerous times for 2-3 years. While the parents were present for the mediation, it was made clear that the facilitated conversation process was for the two teens.
The conversation allowed the teens to express to each other how they had been hurt by the things that had been said about them. They cried together as they explained that they would have never intentionally hurt one another. Then, they laughed together as they discovered who was creating the rumors. The entire room became calm as the parents and the grandparents involved witnessed the power of clear communication, active listening, and genuine respect for others.
Together, the teens created their plan for what tomorrow would look like for them - how they would stand together as friends on the school bus and keep their agreement confidential between them. The mediation concluded with both families - teens, parents, and grandparents - sharing a meal together to celebrate what these children had accomplished and the end of a long-lasting family battle.
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